All I needed

If you couldn't tell from yesterday's post...it was not a good day for me! I try to look on the bright side of life everyday, but I could not get my focus off of what was going on. When someone you think was your friend comes up with all these cruel criticisms and presumptions about you, and then responds in an even more hostile manner when you try to work it out, it's hard to accept. I couldn't understand, I couldn't wrap my mind around it - I still can't. It is a hard pill to swallow. I obsessed about it all day, I didn't get anything accomplished, I wallowed in self pity and ranted all. day. long. I woke up this morning and it was still heavy in my heart. I have never felt so misunderstood and judged, and even worse than that I don't like to spend any amount of time in those negative feelings and actions....it is just not me.

Today, my best friend wrote me this, and it was all I needed to let go and move on:

"I have known you your ENTIRE life and I know what type of person you are. You are the most FAIR, understanding, helpful, trustworthy, fun, responsible person I have ever known. DO NOT allow one person - who has only known you a short time in your life to affect you with their small minded opinions."

It went on, but that was the important part. It was easy for me to feel that the attack was undeserved, and that she was in the wrong. It is hard for me to accept someone won't meet me halfway to work it out, when it took all I had not to react harshly. I let it drag me down and affect me deep into my core. It is even easier to forget who you are and WHY it is important not to listen to people who unleash negativity like this.

I know who I am...and I know who I am not. The people who matter, those who KNOW me and what I am about - would never say anything like what was said. And they certainly wouldn't go on the defense about it if we didn't see eye to eye. All I needed was a little encouragement to remind me of what my character really is, and that those that love me would never question that. Thank God for true friends who know me and love me, and never let me lose myself over insignificant naysayers.